The month of February seems to bring most people into the presence of love because Valentine’s Day is around the corner. I’ve often wondered why it is such a big deal now rather than just a natural part of our lives. Love is an emotion that deserves full recognition throughout the year, don’t you think?
My best friend, Jonn, and I have been together 23 years, my childhood best friend over 38 years, my adult best friend 15 years and a new, special relationship 2 years. When I look at any of these precious and special relationships, they all have been amazingly unique. The journey of being with such caring, thoughtful individuals has been a blessing to me in so many ways.
When I think of my relationship with Jonn, whom I married, I’d say being in love was certainly an experience we both felt in the beginning stages, however, our relationship grew past one of being in love. There’s a deep profound friendship that developed over time and I truly can’t think of a better friend than he. His commitment to me and my work/vision is unwavering as is mine to his.
I have worked very diligently at making my relationships be about loyalty, support, commitment and kindness. I’m shocked when I hear people say they have relationships – eg with siblings, parents, cousins – where they don’t talk or they talk AT each other. I couldn’t imagine being in a relationship with unresolved issues – feeling afraid to broach a subject or skipping around to ensure feathers don’t get ruffled – but unfortunately, some people do. It’s like hoping issues will resolve themselves without your input.
Now, I don’t say I live in a bubble because there is difficulty in all relationships, particularly families, however one has to have a commitment to resolve matters to have extraordinary relationships.
Divorce of any kind can happen when people are positional about who’s right and who’s wrong. People divorce their siblings, parents, and spouses all the time. No war has ever been resolved with both parties on a position unwilling to be open for a discussion. In light of our heart-beating month of love, I’d like to offer the power, passion and purpose for staying together and keeping love alive throughout the year in any relationship.
First, there is Purpose: When I think of my most profound relationships, we both know who we are individually and who we are as friends. For example: Jonn has a vision that everyone has what they need to be who they are. My personal vision is “every woman lives a life of power, passion and dreams come true.” Collectively, we share a similar purpose; “to be a beacon and light for abundance and prosperity creating wealth for generations to come.” Purpose drives us to be great to each other and for each other. Purpose drives our relationship to be great. Greatness exemplifies our collective vision.
Next, there is Passion: Each of us, individually and collectively, live passionate lives. My best friend of 15 years lives life like no-one is watching and cares not what others think. I think that’s awesome, courageous and sometimes down right BOLD. I have my passion about life as well. Our passion drives us to make the difference we desire to make, whether for others or simply for ourselves. Each conversation we have is filled with passionate desire to be better than we were when we entered the dialogue. Passion drives successful communication leaving no stone unturned. It gets heated at times, but the fire is worth the outcome!
Finally, there is Power: Personal power lies in choice. We choose life as it is presented. We choose to love each other in moments when it seems impossible. For example, with my newest budding relationship, we choose to live life powerfully through the challenges. We choose each other and all that comes with the choice. We accept each other for who we are and who we’re not. The power of having an incredible relationship lies in choice. Love exists in the moment you create it to be there. And we create it as a practice.
So, this Valentine’s Day, let’s have a little power, passion and purpose, shall we?
Give it a try yourself. Power, Passion and Purpose in every relationship is worth having. It brings more love to you when you choose to create it. Let’s celebrate this heart beating month of love with choice.